WHAT TO DO WHEN your boyfriend’s mother is racist. “I’m really good friends with one of his cousins, and I’ve met some other younger members of his family (everything went swimmingly), but unfortunately, he’s been very hesitant to have me meet his mom, even though she lives just a few blocks away from him. I know why, too: she doesn’t like white people. This isn’t me making things up: he’s explained it all. She still asks him when he’ll be getting back together with the girl he dated before me—because she was black. . . . This is pretty much the only area of our relationship where that fact that we’re interracial has had a negative effect. Do I push the issue to make a point, or should I just let it go?”