I’M NOT SURE THERE IS A THIRD WAY. I’D ARGUE A QUICK SWAT ON THE BEHIND IS MUCH LESS TRAUMATIZING THAN PSEUDO-PSYCHOLOGICAL EXPLANATIONS. ALSO, PLEASE REMEMBER, KIDS AND DOGS ONLY HEAR VERY SIMPLE STATEMENTS. OH, AND “SELF ESTEEM EDUCATION” HAS BEEN PRETTY THOROUGHLY DEBUNKED:  Correcting Behavior.