SUZANNE VENKER: Stop Telling Men They’re Defective Women. “Read carefully, and you’ll notice that almost every article on the struggles couples face with respect to the work-family battle blames men. The cultural narrative is that women do it all, while the men in their lives are Neanderthals who need to get with the program. The saddest part of this bogus message, aside from the obvious damage it creates, is that it’s so far from the truth it’s ridiculous.”