LIVING WITH a sociopath. “Despite propensities to find sociopaths enticing, there are ways to avoid them. First and foremost, listen to what they say. They can’t help brag of past bad behaviors and promise future ones. Infidelity is not shame; it is triumph. They lie incessantly. When their lies ask you to suspend disbelief, don’t. If you challenge a lie, it will predictably be covered up with an even greater lie. You really can’t change them. Don’t identify with them. Try identifying with their victims. Think about the people they hurt, the lives they’ve upset, if not ruined.”