HOW TO HELP THE TROOPS AND THEIR FAMILIES: the United Warrior Survivor Foundation is “”dedicated to the surviving spouses of Special Operations military personnel killed in the line of duty since 9/11. UWSF offers Survivor Transition Assistance to surviving spouses, along with educational counseling, financial guidance, investment planning, and other programs.”
SoldiersAngels is worth a look, too. (Both via Hugh Hewitt).