PREPARING YOURSELF FOR A VIOLENT ATTACK. “I have to continually fight the inclination to become complacent. After all, bad things rarely happen around here.”

Attack into the ambush. Once, for some reason, I decided to test the Insta-wife’s responses by grabbing her purse from behind. She immediately yelled and — instead of yanking back on the purse as most people would have — charged into me before she even knew who it was. I’ll never do that again, and probably no one else would, either. Ferocity gets you a long way, but it has to be instinctive.