THERE WAS A KING OF QUEENS EPISODE ABOUT THIS, I BELIEVE: My Wife’s Enemies Are Now My Enemies, Too. “Not that this happens right away. When you start dating someone, you don’t have to hate the people that person hates. You can accept your date’s resentments without making them your own. . . . But as your relationship broadens and deepens and solidifies; their enemies become yours. And whether or not you hated them before, you certainly hate them now.”