BECAUSE SPOUSAL ABUSE IS COOL WHEN WOMEN DO IT: Why Are So Many Women Shaming Their Husbands Online?
These sorts of posts might feel like a victory of sort to feminists. Women, refusing to back down, are demanding appropriate treatment and behavior from their spouses. For most of human history women have been subservient in marriages (and in every other role), but not today!
Except that’s not actually feminism. Feminism seeks equality between the sexes (in this case, the spouses). Imagine, for a moment, what equality would look like in this circumstance. If husbands posted pictures of their wives holding signs their husbands wrote with their offenses: “Even though we just paid off our credit cards, I just had to buy a new dress for my friend’s wedding.” “I watch nothing but horrible reality TV but claim I’m doing book club reading when my friends ask.”
We’re thankfully in an era where such behavior would be called out for what it is: misogyny. So too should we call “husband shaming” for what it is: man-hating.
The proper response to this behavior is to immediately file for divorce. You can’t have a good marriage without respect. But I imagine that men who’d be willing to end things over being treated this way, don’t get treated this way.
And as for that “feminism seeks equality between the sexes,” well, not so much, actually.