RULE OF THUMB: IF AMANDA MARCOTTE IS BASHING YOU, YOU’RE NOT THE “DUMB GUY.” The conundrum of the monogamous bisexual. “As for bisexuals married to opposite-sex partners, do they have a special exception from the usual rule that a married person ought not to talk about his or her sexual attraction to persons who are not his or her spouse? If they do, is it because we think they have a more persuasive argument that there’s something they want that they’re not getting from their spouse, or is it the seemingly loftier goal of increasing visibility for a group that monogamy would otherwise erase?”