21ST CENTURY RELATIONSHIPS: I Look Down On Young Women With Husbands And Kids And I’m Not Sorry. “Every time I hear someone say that feminism is about validating every choice a woman makes I have to fight back vomit. Do people really think that a stay at home mom is really on equal footing with a woman who works and takes care of herself?” Meh. If you’re like most feminists, you’ve just substituted the state for a husband.