TOM SMITH: “So what is the name for that feeling, that nothing could be more beautiful, and yet more sad, than these times we have with our kids and our parents? You want to slow it down, but you can’t. You realize 10 years is nothing, and 50 not much more. Your little brother is not so little, you’re not so little yourself, the kid who pounded on the pedal car with you died years ago, your baby is a teenager, your three year old is in a hurry, and New Canaan is busy becoming a New England version of Brentwood. Most of it is good, of course; that’s what life is. If it were frozen, it would be dead.”